Sex is a part of
daily routine and if it is done in a limit, it could bring partners
closer physically, mentally and make them more compatible. But if it
is demanded in excess amount it is called addiction and addiction
leads to path of deterioration.
Here are 10
things that everybody hates about a sex addict:
Continuous
masturbating: When a sexual requirement remains unfulfilled, it leads to
masturbation. This could also happen in long-distance relationships.
Practicing too much masturbation leads to distraction in day to day
activities which leads to cheating and prostitution.
Seriousness
lost: When a person is talking normally, you tend to think it as
double meaning and he thinks you are not serious about anything.
Thus, you lose their attention and downfall of life begins.
Dependence
on Pornography: A person could get addicted to porn very easily.
It could be easily downloaded via internet. Dependence on
pornography increases once a person starts living in fantasy world.
Not
focusing on other daily routine stuff: Pornography addiction
leads to sex addiction which leads to dependency forgetting daily
routine tasks. A person forgets to eat, sleep, and work because of
the sex addiction. He would often miss out on important meeting and
social functions.
Leads
to other addictions: It is very truly said that one addiction
leads to another. Sex addiction leads to alcohol or drug addiction.
This could damage his life perfect life permanently.
Affecting
Relationships: A person becomes demanding from his partner. He
wants sex all the time as it has taken a toll over his life which
makes his partner leave him.
Vulgarity:
Once a person gets addicted to sex, he tries sexual molestation
knowingly or unknowingly. This could make people avoid you. He could
feel disgusted by his own self and he would lose his self-confidence
in the public.
If one does not
seek right sex addiction treatment then it could destroy him
physically, mentally as well as socially. The Gentle path at the
Meadows is Sex addiction therapy center that will provide you
with all kinds of sex addiction help.
Gentle Path at
The Meadows carried out a survey on porn addiction where
approximately 500 males were interrogated about their addictions and
most were the victim of pornography addiction.
We divided them
into 2 parts: Married and Unmarried
As a part of
confidentiality, we do not reveal their name so we call all the
married men John and unmarried ones Edward.
John's wife,
after several attempts of explaining, got tired of him and their
marriage was at stake. This addiction not only destroyed his marriage
life but destroyed his physical and financial self also. John was so
much obsessed with pornography that he could not finish his chores,
meet his office targets and enjoy his family life. Here John was a
family man, but this addiction is seen mostly in teenagers.
Teenage males are
very much addicted to pornography because they are newly exposed to
this and they want to explore themselves. Like John, I came across
teenage male (Edward). Edward was being exposed to pornography by his
friend and he got so much obsessed with it that he stopped attending
functions and fulfill his other duties. Edward was so addicted that
sometimes, by mistake he sexually molested girls. Once, he was so
disgusted with himself that was about to commit suicide.
Pornography
watched more could deteriorate your life and hinders the progress.
Any addiction is fatal for human’s physical and mental life which
also leads to adverse effect on an individual's social life. As shown
in porn videos, we expect our partner to enact accordingly but this
is real world and some things are impossible in real life.
Thus, The Meadows
is your solution. We at The Meadows, provide pornography addiction
help. Be it porn addiction or any other addiction, we are
there to help. People like Johns and Edwards are normal and need not
feel disgusted with them. Just seek the help from correct source and
you will get your life back on track by overcoming pornography
addiction.
Sexual
addiction is seen in males of teenage and till late 20’s. Well,
that was something I used to think, but it’s not the truth. The
married men are as addicted to sex as teenagers and youngsters.
In-fact married men are more addicted as they feel they are being
neglected by their wives after child birth. I had conducted a
mini-survey and I have obtained results that would change your view
point about sex addiction.
I asked few
married men and few unmarried men about their viewpoint and I assured
their confidentiality. The reply I received was married men are being
neglected by their wives due to taking care of their children. They
take help of porn or other addiction. They cannot complaint because
their wives are exhausted too by the end of day. They are stuck
because they cannot seek help from sex workers and therefore they are
very much frustrated. Masturbation, voyeurism and other exercises are
not of much help.
I also asked
teenagers and young adults but they had fewer complaints as compared
to married men. They take help of their girlfriends or prostitution.
Porn helps them equally. But as compared to married ones they have
quite smoother sex life. Also they are engaged in their work so that
helps.
I came to
conclusion that many males are sexually frustrated and I have
suggested them Sex addiction treatment where they can admit
themselves in to Sex addiction rehab center.The Gentle
path is the place for them. The Gentle Path at The Meadows is a sex addiction therapy center where a proper therapy treatment is
provided to each individual by Dr. Patrick Carnes. A specialized
scheduled 45 days treatment is designed for each individual, which
lasts life-long.
So, visit Gentle
Path and overcome your addiction.
By Amy Levinson, MPA, MA, LASAC, CSAT-Candidate, Counselor, Gentle Path at The Meadows
Current research in the field of sex addiction is revealing with
utmost certainty that sex addiction therapy is just like any other addiction. It
involves the dopamine response just like alcoholism, drug addiction,
gambling, shopping addiction, and any other process addiction. Such
addictions all reside in the same part of the brain, so should be
treated as such. What’s difficult and most challenging about sex
addiction is that many people don’t see it as a “legitimate” addiction.
Therefore, it has a stigma attached to it when in reality it’s no
different than more “publicized” addictions.
The unfortunate part is that only a small percentage of
individuals in the throes of sex addiction get treatment, even though
they meet the criteria for sex addiction or impulse control disorder.
The absence of a DSM-5 code for sex addiction (rendering the condition
ineligible for insurance coverage) prevents many individuals from
getting necessary treatment that could potentially save lives. Many
clinicians do not have a good handle on sex addiction or even about the
associated behaviors, so they’re often unable to make an accurate
diagnosis.
On a brighter note, the increasing amount of research devoted to sex
addiction will allow clinicians and other individuals within the medical
community to gain a better understanding of sex addiction. Such studies
will allow industry professionals to be better equipped to diagnose the
condition and refer patients to appropriate treatment facilities, such
as Gentle Path at The Meadows and The Meadows. With proper treatment,
incredible transformations are realized every day. Hopefully, this
research will allow sex addiction to be assigned a DSM-5 code in order
for afflicted individuals to secure the treatment they need to recover.
How does research help sex addicts?
For example, two recent studies conducted by Dr. Valerie Voon of the
University Cambridge are helping to “legitimize” sex addition.
One study revealed that for people with sex addiction – or impulse
control disorder – pornographic images trigger brain activity similar to
brain activity triggered by drugs in drug addicts. When the sex addicts
in the study observed pornographic images, they had greater activity in
three brain regions than that of the control group. These regions –
known as the ventral striatum, dorsal anterior cingulate, and amygdala –
are also hyper-activated in drug addicts who are given drug stimuli.
The researchers asked the study participants to rank their level of
desire and how much they liked watching the pornographic videos. What’s
interesting to note is that they discovered that the participants with
compulsive sexual behavior had higher levels of desire towards the
videos, but did not like them very much. Dr. Voon notes a similar
pattern with drug addicts.
Attention and sex addiction
Another study conducted by Dr. Voon looked at the differences in
attentional biases in the sex-addicted population. The study relied on a
small dot to measure frequency and the time it took for participants to
pick the correct side of the screen where the dot had just appeared.
The dot was either shown directly after an explicit or neutral image.
Addicts picked the side of the screen where the explicit image was
displayed – whether or not this answer was the correct. Healthy
volunteers did not automatically pick the side of the explicit image.
Sexually explicit cues provoked faster and more attentive responses in
sex addicts than neutral cues. The authors theorize that sexually
compulsive addicts are conditioned to consider sexually explicit
material more relevant, salient, and attention-inducing and are quicker
to respond to such cues.
Essentially, this body of research confirms that sexual compulsivity
is often misunderstood. Research associates sexual compulsivity with
neural forces that compel the addict – through changes brought about by
sensitization, enhanced salience, and attentional bias (even when these
addicts clearly do not like what they’re doing) – to engage in addictive
behavior that puts sex addiction in the realm of any other addiction.
This knowledge will prevent treatment providers from having to
constantly reinvent the wheel when it comes to helping sex addicts
develop relapse prevention strategies and coping skills. We can borrow
such tools from the world of chemical addiction. Addicts can be educated
to develop skills that address their sensitization to cues; incentive
motivation; the difference between wanting and liking; salience; and
enhanced attention to sexual cues.
Sex addicts can and do recover. Once they understand the “whys” of
their addiction, their tendency towards self-hatred and loathing will
dissipate. It’s then they can focus on their journey of recovery – and
experience the miracle of living a full life.
Learn More About Gentle Path at The Meadows Sex Addiction Treatment
Every journey begins with a single step. Through an array of
time-tested modalities, we’ll give you the tools to develop healthy
relationships. You’ll have these tools with you for the rest of your
life. We want to see you and your loved ones prosper and thrive. For
more information on sex addiction, call our Intake Team at 866-811-8265 to learn more.
Sex addiction
has nothing to do with religion, as almost half of religious men
are sex addicts. This addiction has dominated the daily
routine activities of male such as eating or sleeping or working. Men
of every age are addicted to sex and this addiction has
destroyed their career, family life as well as relationships.
Sex addiction
has various stages and here at the Gentle path, we recognize the
stage you are at and then provide you the treatment. The five
stages of addiction are:
Stage
1: First stage is where you develop dependency on porn for
masturbation.
Stage
2: Second stage where you get addicted to porn that dominates
your daily routine.
Stage
3: Third stage where the thing that were nauseous initially, now
works as arousal.
Stage
4: Fourth stage where you become anesthetic such that, you
require watching porn for a very long time to obtain required
results.
Stage
5: Fifth stage is very harmful because his is the stage where
you start to act out sexually which could damage your reputation.
One could be
mistaken as vulgar or pervert, even if he is not. Thus, here, at the
Gentle path, at The Meadows, we provide therapy treatment of sex
addiction that is suitable or an individual. We provide Sex
addictionhelp to each and every individual in a different
way. We alter the schedule and make a tailor-made schedule for every
individual.
We are situated
at northern edge of Sonoran desert, right below Arizona’s
mountainous region. The atmosphere here is calm and soothing, exactly
required for sex addiction therapy. The Gentle path, at the Meadows,
we keep your treatment confidential to save you from embarrassment
and worry.
By Cassandra Rustvold, LMSW, MEd, CSAT; Trauma Therapist at Gentle Path at The Meadows
When patients hear the words “Somatic Experiencing™” they often have one of two common responses:
1. This is some new age, woo-woo gimmick, or
2. I have no idea what that is.
Generally, after some basic education on the scientific foundations
of the approach to healing trauma, patients are open to trying it.
Two of the most difficult barriers that have to initially be
addressed is the notion that trauma can include anything that is
perceived as a threat to the survival of the individual; traumatic
responses can result from situations that are not literally
life-threatening (like car accidents and violent crime). That is because
trauma exists primarily in the nervous system of the body versus the
person’s thinking mind.
In my use of Somatic Experiencing™ approaches with men struggling
with sexual addiction, I have been struck by their struggles with
emotional awareness, presence, and ability to find natural states of
calm and relaxation. Below I examine how each of these three skills can
be addressed with a mind-body modality, like Somatic Experiencing™.
Regulating the Nervous System
Two decades ago, a new understanding of the impact of trauma and
stress on the automatic nervous system took the medical and
psychological fields by storm. We learned that when trauma occurs and
the nervous system becomes overwhelmed, the body reacts just as much as
the mind, if not more so. This propelled us to examine the ways we
approach treating symptoms of trauma.
Dr. Peter Levine—who is also a Senior Fellow at The Meadows—developed
Somatic Experiencing™ as a way to help trauma survivors to
re-regulating their dysregulated nervous systems. As a result, they are
able to move beyond their chronic survival states of fight, flight,
and/or freeze.
Unconscious responses to traumatic events impact the way our bodies
and minds respond to and interpret even the most mundane of events
leaving us either in constant states of over-arousal (fight/flight) or
under-arousal (freeze). A wide array of nervous system dysregulations
and disorders can manifest from these responses: anxiety, depression,
over-intellectualization, gastrointestinal problems, catastrophizing
mindsets, shame, and impulsive behaviors, to name just a few.
During a Somatic Experiencing™ session, the practitioner acts as a
guide, helping the person to notice moments of deactivation and
discharge held neurological energy. This is done in a collaborative,
organic, and gentle manner by inviting the person to notice the
sensations in the body, connect with the environment, and become more
familiar with the experience of being in the present moment.
To see what a Somatic Experiencing™ looks like, watch this video of
Dr. Levine working with a military veteran who struggles with PTSD:
Focusing on the Present
An inability to be present in the here and now, a wandering mind, and
feelings of being disconnected from one’s body, are common experiences
for people who have experienced trauma or high levels of stress. When a
person’s nervous system operates continually from a place of survival
(fight/flight/freeze), anticipating the future and ruminating on the
past are typical forms of dissociation that transport the person away
from their current experience.
During a Somatic Experiencing™ session, people are often amazed when
they discover how little of their attention is typically focused in the
present moment. By way of invitation, the practitioner guides the
individual towards noticing their environment, which has a direct impact
on calming the sympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system.
Additionally, directing attention to the felt sense (sensations
within the body) allows one to metaphorically switch off the part of the
brain that disconnects them from the here and now. This has been shown
to strengthen the pre-frontal cortex of the brain, thereby strengthening
the sense of self, control over impulses, and the ability to plan and
execute. Somatic Experiencing™ is somewhat similar to mindfulness
practices and meditation in this way.
Developing Emotional Awareness
In her new book, Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation, Alexandra
Katehakis explores in detail the ways that the inability to regulate
and/or experience one’s emotions is directly related to breaches in
healthy nervous system functioning. This is the cornerstone sexual
addiction.
One’s ability to understand their emotional state is largely
dependent on a sense of embodied awareness, which is one of the first
things lost when a nervous system becomes dysregulated. With people who
act out sexually, sex can become their main way of experiencing a
fluctuation in emotion. It may also be the only way they know how to
regulate and cope with their emotional upheavals.
Developing body awareness through Somatic Experiencing™ is one way to
access and strengthen emotional awareness. And, it has the added
benefit of helping the individual in treatment experience genuine
empathy.
Take Control from Sex Addiction
Men who struggle with sex addiction sometimes believe that it may be
impossible for them to overcome their impulses and stop their unhealthy
sexual behaviors. “I’m just a bad person. Nothing can be done,” they may
say.
But, sometimes, one’s inappropriate behavior is more a reflection of
the symptoms of nervous system dysregulation and less of a reflection on
their moral character. If you would like more information on overcoming
self-destructive sexual behaviors—multiples affairs, porn addiction,
compulsive masturbation, etc—please give us a call at 866-240-4931 or send us an email.
